Even if you have a family history of breast cancer – the three words ‘you have cancer’ will hit you like an unseen freight train – hard, unexpected and devastating.

Those first few hours can roll into days and into weeks, passing in a sea of disbelief as you wander around alternating between dumb silence and tears of anger, fear and sadness.  Its important to do what feels right for you – sleep, scream, shout, hide away, surround yourself with friends – there’s no right or wrong here its just about getting through. 

Know that this too will pass and like any shock and grief you eventually come to start realising and accepting what’s happened to you and from this place you start to move on to even more perplexing questions.