Why me?
Why Me?
Like a 4 year-old trying to make sense of this crazy world, at some point you’ll find yourself tied up in knots in a ‘why?’ stage that goes something like this…
Why me? Did I ……..(insert one/any/all of the following…)
Do something wrong?
Drink too much?
Use the wrong deodorant?
Wear the wrong bra?
Eat the wrong food?
Experiement with with drugs and shouldn’t have?
Get too stressed?
Use too many chemicals to clean my loo?
Not look after myself?
Leave it too long to have my children?
Think too many negative thoughts?
Blah Blah Blah…
This is eternally frustrating as a) you’ll find that the list of possible scenarios is endless and b) you’ll never know either way what caused your particular cancer in your particular body at this particular time in your life.
Cancer is believed to be a product of the interaction between our personal genetics and our environment which pretty much covers everything we eat, drink, wear, say, think and do. For some, a genetic mutation such as the BRCA1 or BRCA2 gene increases your disposition to cancer but even then not 100% of those individuals get breast cancer. If there was a clear answer to what caused it – we’d be closer to a cure.
There is one short answer to all of this that you’ll end up at anyway and funnily enough it’s the same one you’ll eventually give the 4 year old stuck in the same dilemma – its because that’s just the way it is.
Love the site ladies! You took the words straight out of my mind and mouth in each section!
I’ve been (un)lucky enough to have cancer twice- acute lymphoblastic leukaemia when I was 26 (5yrs remission march 2012) and then IDC/DCIS cancer in my breast in June 2012. Currently going thru chemo, had the IVF embryos stored and just trying to get on with life.
It definitely changes your life perspective and you work out very quickly who and what is important in life!
Keep up the great work xox
Thanks so much for your feedback Leanne and I’m really glad we hit the mark for you with the site
Sorry to hear you’re going through treatment yet again – that sucks. Glad to hear the Frosties are on ice and I hope the chemo is being kind (or as much as it can be) and if you ever want to connect and share with other bright young things in the same boat then please join our closed Facebook group – we’d love to have you xxx
Why me?! That’s exactly my thoughts of the past few days! I am 33 and just diagnosed with breast cancer on Friday and I have a mastectomy next Thursday. I had to have a hysterectomy a year and half ago for uterine fibroids and now they’re gonna take off a boob! Its a little bit like something out there in the cosmos is just trying to steal away from me all my femininity.
Yay for pink though!
Hey Millie
Sorry to hear bout what’s going on for you at the moment – I know what you mean bout femininity – cancer can take our plumbing, hair, boobs and figure but it still can’t take our sisterhood and fighting spirit! Feel free to join us in our closed FB group if you ever wanna rant, get support or just have a laugh (yes believe it or not we actually have a good laugh together at the ups and downs on the journey) just click or copy and paste http://www.facebook.com/groups/151638561587259/ and we can add you – there’s 47 of us in there so rest assured you’re not alone. Go well xxx